Playing Big: #27 of 28 Big Ideas from the World of Coaching

This article is twenty-eighth in a multi-part series that adapts and excerpts my entire book, The Coach Within: 28 Big Ideas for Engaging the Power of Your Own Wisdom, Creativity, and Choices* (Everything Goes Media, 2017).


27. Playing Big

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually who are you not to be?”

— Marianne Williamson

Once you’re in the swing of coaching yourself, one finer point it’s imperative to master is playing big and holding yourself to that standard. Playing big refers to all manner of bigness and stretching ourselves to get there. It’s such things as:

  • Thriving and not merely surviving.

  • Dreaming bigger, thinking bigger, planning bigger.

  • Raising the bar for ourselves and our lives.

  • Being fearlessly honest about what we want.

  • Showing up from a larger place — more centered, more present, and more aware.

  • Acting from a nobler place — with greater purpose and making a greater contribution.

  • Behaving at a peak level — with more confidence and at the best of our abilities.


How do you play big?

  • Start by not playing small, not operating from pettiness.

  • Do the thing/s you’re afraid of, face your fears.

  • Take the leaps, accept the challenges before you.

  • Always ask yourself: Is it enough? What else is there? How else can I serve? What more do I want? What more can I do?

  • Say yes to the big things you want. Let the possibility of those things be real and have a chance of taking hold in reality before you deny them to yourself.

  • Conduct yourself with utmost integrity, from your highest nature.

  • Be all that you can be in the moment at hand.

  • Create big (big idea 2) and take big responsibility (big idea 3).

  • Take extreme care of yourself (big idea 12).

  • Idealize big (big idea 16).

  • Set big intentions (big idea 19).

  • Take big actions (big idea 20).

  • Express big gratitude (big idea 23) and love big (big idea 26).


Your Coaching To-Do’s

⎕ Review the sections of your coaching journal that address your goals, intentions, and idealizing. Assess how big you are playing. Is it big enough? Do you now want to play bigger in any of these areas? ⎕ In a walk or meditation session, let your mind wander to the meaning of bigness in those areas and the significance for you of stretching yourself further. ⎕ As you go about your daily activities, find one or two places today where you can think bigger, show up bigger, and play bigger. Bring your best self, your best game. Afterwards, think about what the experience showed you about your limits and your potential.

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